As we reported earlier, University of Texas at Austin psychology researchers David Buss and Cindy Meston investigated just exactly what motivates people to have sex, and found out there were at least 237 different reasons for doing it. This is the top 50 list they came up with, both for men and women. The authors have given us their kind permission to reproduce (no pun intended) these lists here.
| No. | Women | Men |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | I was attracted to the person | I was attracted to the person |
| 2 | I wanted to experience the physical pleasure | It feels good |
| 3 | It feels good | I wanted to experience the physical pleasure |
| 4 | I wanted to show my affection to the person | It’s fun |
| 5 | I wanted to express my love for the person | I wanted to show my affection to the person |
| 6 | I was sexually aroused and wanted the release | I was sexually aroused and wanted the release |
| 7 | I was “horny” | I was “horny” |
| 8 | It’s fun | I wanted to express my love for the person |
| 9 | I realized I was in love | I wanted to achieve an orgasm. |
| 10 | I was “in the heat of the moment” | I wanted to please my partner |
| 11 | I wanted to please my partner | The person’s physical appearance turned me on |
| 12 | I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy) | I wanted the pure pleasure |
| 13 | I wanted the pure pleasure | I was “in the heat of the moment” |
| 14 | I wanted to achieve an orgasm | I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy) |
| 15 | It’s exciting, adventurous | It’s exciting, adventurous |
| 16 | I wanted to feel connected to the person | The person had a desirable body |
| 17 | The person’s physical appearance turned me on | I realized I was in love |
| 18 | It was a romantic setting | The person had an attractive face |
| 19 | The person really desired me | The person really desired me |
| 20 | The person made me feel sexy | I wanted the adventure/excitement |
| 21 | The person caressed me | I wanted to feel connected to the person |
| 22 | It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship | I wanted the experience |
| 23 | I wanted to become one with another person | It was a romantic setting |
| 24 | It just happened | The person caressed me |
| 25 | I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex | The person made me feel sexy |
| 26 | I wanted the experience | It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship |
| 27 | I wanted the adventure/excitement | I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex |
| 28 | The person had an attractive face | I wanted to keep my partner satisfied |
| 29 | The person was a good kisser | The opportunity presented itself |
| 30 | I wanted to intensify my relationship | It just happened |
| 31 | My hormones were out of control | I wanted to intensify my relationship |
| 32 | I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions | I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions |
| 33 | I wanted to feel loved | My hormones were out of control |
| 34 | The person had a desirable body | The person was too “hot” (sexy) to resist |
| 35 | I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion | I was curious about my sexual abilities |
| 36 | I wanted to communicate at a “deeper” level | I wanted to improve my sexual skills |
| 37 | I was curious about sex | I wanted to become one with another person |
| 38 | It was a special occasion | I saw the person naked and could not resist |
| 39 | The person was intelligent | The person was a good kisser |
| 40 | I wanted to say “I’ve missed you” | I wanted to feel loved |
| 41 | I wanted to keep my partner satisfied | I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion |
| 42 | I got “carried away” | The person was too physically attractive to resist |
| 43 | The opportunity presented itself | It was a special occasion |
| 44 | The person had a great sense of humor | I hadn’t had sex for a while |
| 45 | I wanted to improve my sexual skills | The person had beautiful eyes |
| 46 | I was curious about my sexual abilities | I wanted to communicate at a “deeper” level |
| 47 | The person seemed self-confident | I wanted to experiment with new experiences |
| 48 | I wanted to make up after a fight | The person was intelligent |
| 49 | I was drunk | I wanted to keep my partner happy |
| 50 | I was turned on by the sexual conversation | I was curious about what the person was like in bed |
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